You have to be a resident of your county for 30 days before you can file to dissolve your marriage in Oklahoma. The divorce filing in County A will trump the separate maintenance action in County B. Expect the separate maintenance action in County A to be dismissed or transferred to County B. You can file a counterclaim in the divorce action in County B, and your spouse cannot dismiss. If your spouse dismisses in County A and you've lived in County B for thirty days at that time, you can file to dissolve the marriage in County B.
The bottom line is, if you want to divorce your spouse, you can. The only question is where. Even though you might prefer County B as the more convenient forum for you, stay focused on your ultimate goal to get out of your dangerous relationship. Good luck and keep safe.
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