The answer to your question depends upon the qualified retirement order that was issued by the court. if the order states that you receive the benefits "if, as and when" your ex-husband receives his benefits, then you must wait. If the order states that the percentage is immediately transferred to you, then you are entitled to the benefits as provided in the plan.
I recommend that you consult with an attorney.
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