You can't file for divorce to force someone to return to him - and you filing papers pro se clearly isn't a good idea, since you don't know appropriate procedure.
Consult a local divorce attorney and come up with a strategy that will work to achieve your goals.
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Set a trial date, show up with a final decree of divorce and prove it up in front of the court. Demonstrate you proved proper service and notice of this hearing.
I'd recommend at least consulting a local attorney to discuss your options.
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