You serve discovery requests to the other side. Or you can serve a subpoena to the banks. Hire an attorney
If a proper demand is made, the statements in your wife's possession or control should be turned over to you. This assumes no prenuptial agreement or other court order restricting discovery. If your wife does not possess the statements, you could compel her to sign an authorization for you to get the statements directly or you could subpoena the statements directly from the bank. Her lawyer is not supposed to provide what your wife wants to give you but rather should comply with a lawful discovery demand. You really should hire an attorney to obtain this information.
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