Did you apply for a waiver of the ULP bar? Was that denied also? If so, have you considered appealing that denial? More information is needed to properly guide you and your spouse. Please do consider retaining counsel.
As the spouse of a United States citizen your husband may be eligible for a waiver of the three-year bar if you are able to demonstrate extreme hardship to the United States citizen spouse. The requirement of extreme hardship is a fairly high standard and you should confer with an immigration attorney should you undertake applying for the waiver.
If your I1 30 visa petition has been denied you will need to refile the I1 30. Refiling is through the US CIS.