In reality you do not need the defendant to appear for a divorce to be granted. You must simply give him proper notice. That can get more complicated than a pro se divorce. It sounds like you are doing this on your own, and I would suggest that you get an attorney involved otherwise you will be spinning your wheels. Good luck to you.
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As long as you can prove he was legally served, you simply enter default and prepare a judgment.
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