My ex wife and I have shared joint and legal physical custody of our daughter. She attends school in my town as court ordered due to her mom moving 7 times and changing our daughters school each time. Our parenting time is 50/50. We see a parent coordinator that my attorney placed in the court order as we are a high conflict divorce, and to protect myself from many false allegations from my ex wife. My daughter is being pressured by her mother to attend the school in her mothers home town. My daughter voices she wants to go to the school in her moms town . I've explained to her this will not work unless she lives with her mom full-time and a schedule change must take place in order for her to change schools, as I cannot drive her back and forth to another town due to cutting into my work schedule. My daughter voiced that she doesn't want any type of change to the schedule and doesn't want any time taken away from being with me, the father. My family and I are convinced she is too intimidated by her mom to disagree with changing schools. She has straight A's, very popular, I do not know why she would want to change and can't give me any reason for it. What do I do from here?
Any change in school enrollment would require an agreement between you and your ex-wife, or a court modification based on the best interest of the child. From what you report there is no indication that it it is in the best interest if your daughter (she is doing well and her wishes will not substantially sway the court unless she is approaching adulthood - 14+). However, it is concerning that your daughter wants to change school for no apparent reason other than to placate your ex-wife. You need to get to the bottom of this. Talk to her teachers, friends, counselors, etc., and consider employing a therapist. Her behavior speaks to a problem, whether it is her mother or some situation at school that she is trying to evade.
This is not legal advice and is not intended to create an attorney-client relationship. You should speak to an attorney for further information.
You need to document and highlight that she is being pressured by her Mother. Bring this this to the attention of the Parent Coordinator and the therapist. Send a letter/email to Mother that sets forth our concerns about her conduct.
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