Through my separation agreement, I agreed to pay for child care during the school year. We made this agreement because at the time we agreed to use my mother for $20/hour (common rate). Since divorce my EX has fired my mother and used a teenager for $35 (who does not drive) to care for my children. I didn't put up a fight because my daughters liked her. He will not provide proof of payment or allow me to get to claim the sitter on my taxes because he says its only care for the daughter that he claims. Flash forward to September 2020, he now has a history of manipulating the hourly rate from $35/ hour to $20/ hour back to $35 and now $70 per hour. He is pissed off he had to pay full child support and alimony since the lock down in March and now is creating invoices that reflect egregious fees. He withheld all child support and is creating a debit invoice for the following month. There are no specifics to limitations outlined in our SA. He is not going to stop until he made it so that I pay him back every penny he was ordered to pay. I need help from this narcissistic grandiose man. Does the court have any guidelines to protect against this situation?
Day care is for child care while your spouse is working or even looking for work. He must give you actual invoices from the provider. You can request proof of his payments such as canceled checks or debit payments. $70 per hour is certainly excessive for day care. I don't know all the facts, so I can't know all of your options. However, You could file a motion for contempt regarding the past due child support. If he is not working, he will not be found in contempt, but the court will find an arrearage for any missed payments. You do not need to pay for child care without receipts from the provider. You may be able to file a motion requesting order that your ex provide all receipts and proof of payment for child care, such as canceled checks or debits from accounts. You could request an order that the parties agree on new care providers before you engage them. You should speak with an attorney to discuss your options situation. Different attorneys will give you different options. Some attorneys may suggest alternative plans of action to chose to follow. Good Luck.
I believe u will need an attorney to deal with him. Narcissism seems to be on the rise. I would need more facts and to review your divorcée agreement and order. However, he must provide proof of childcare expenses to you, if he wants you to pay any part of them.
I would suggest that you contact an attorney. Your case has many complexities
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