No. You will need a waiver which will be very hard to get given you are from Canada. It seems you will have to try and rebuilt your family on Canadian soil for the next ten years.
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Don't be so sure the police dropped the case. I suggest you hire a criminal defense lawyer to check where things stand with the police.
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You really need an in-depth consultation with an attorney. Your husband may be able to help you by filing a hardship waiver (I-601).
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