Its hard to give an answer unless the facts of what were asked for in the motions are known. So to cut to the chase, if you can not afford an attorney, consult with a law school to see if they have a third year student doing an internship with a family law attorney that is supervising them, call a legal aid society, see if church, synagogue, or other place of worship that you can possibly get advice from one of their members, or get as many small loans from as many friends, family, and/or co-workers as possible. There are ways to get an attorney other than just going to the office and writing a check.
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Your questions are very in depth and difficult to answer without being able to review your file. Generally, if you are not represented by an attorney, you will have to go to a Permanent Orders hearing. If the other party doesn't show up then the Court may enter orders by default. You could simply ask the Court to set a Permanent Orders hearing if you have completed all of the things that you are required to do. Parties that want to appear by phone have to file a Motion with the Court. The form is online. It sounds like you may have jurisdictional issues. Those are very complicated issues that really do require an attorney to review the facts of your case to advise you which state has jurisdiction. If you can't afford an attorney, you can contact Metro Volunteer Lawyers or a law school who, if you are indigent, may represent you pro bono.
It is difficult to give a useable answer without knowing what was filed or what motions are at issue. However, a request for entry of default is probably not appropriate if what you are looking for is the dismissal of the case. It isn't easy to force a judge to rule, but you might consider fiing a request for ruling noting that there has been no response filed and the motion can be considered confessed.
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