"Civil unions" were created by statute for SAME SEX couples.
You and your boyfriend cannot get a "Civil Union." You must either get married--or not.
Marriage does not have to have "a definite religious undertone." Just get married in a civil ceremony--not in a church/synagogue, etc.
In NJ, marriages can be performed by (among others) Superior Court or Municipal Court Judges, court, County Surrogates, County Clerks, Mayors or Township Committee Charpersons.
You just need to get a license first. In NJ, the license can be issued by the licensing officer in the municipality in which either your boyfriend or you resides, as long as one of you resides in NJ.
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