The information you seek is going to require more facts and may I suggest you consult with an attorney in your area. You can try to sek a change in the physical custody but unles there is a substantial change in the circumstances as to why your ex-wife should not be the primary custodial parent your application will most likely fail. As to alimony, the terms of your "agreement" will control. If there was a voluntary waiver then you may not be entitled to alimony. If the "agreement" was silent as to alimony, then if you can show a change in circumstances as to why you should now be entitled to alimony you may be successful.
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I would need to review your agreement and/or judgment to properly evaluate your questions. Child support does not have anything to do with alimony or residential custody determinations.
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I join with the other responses. Your questions are just too broad for a Q&A board. Every issue you're raising has a "fact specific" response to it. Suggest getting a consult with a Family Law attorney who can review it with you.
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Your question is complex and I do not have all of the information to give you a definitive answer. However, ifi you are already divorced and you did not get alimony, it is probably too late to get alimony now. If you believe that the child support is unfair, you may be able to ask the court for a reduction. While I believe you need a lawyer's help, you can file a complaint to reduce child support by going down to the court house. Bring all of your financial records with you on the day of the hearing: income tax returns (3 years), 3 recent pay stubs,