Stay calm, the law is on your side. It is about the school's failure to follow the law so don't let it become about you being disruptive to the school environment. Tennessee has many associations that help parents with special needs students deal with the schools. Do an internet search and contact a couple of them. You could also speak to a special education attorney, and education attorney who specializes in special needs children's care and school compliance with the law. You can find one here on Avvo or by calling the local bar association.
Best of luck!
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