The link below explains what it takes to have your husband involuntarily relinquish his rights
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Your question raises immediate issues: 1) you want to terminate the legal rights of your daughter's biological father; and 2) you may be concerned that your daughter's biological father is stalking and intimidating her, you, or both. The best way to protect yourself is to talk to a lawyer in your city about both of these issues. If you cannot afford to hire a lawyer, contact Legal Aid of NC (www.legalaidnc.org) or your local family crisis center.
Parental rights are protected by the United States Constitution, just like free speech or the right to vote. To terminate parental rights, you will be required to show very convincing evidence. And you will need to follow a detailed procedure that gives your daughter's father an opportunity to explain his actions - and the state may even appoint an attorney for him if he cannot afford to hire one. Courts are reluctant to cut the legal relationship of a minor child to either of her parents.
In North Carolina a mother can file a petition to terminate the parental rights of a father. She has to convince the court of two facts: 1) the father has done something to the child (for example, child abuse), or has not fulfilled his responsibilities to the child (for example, failed to pay child support). The General Statutes (NC laws) list 10 specific reasons the court can terminate parental rights, and you must convince the court with clear and convincing evidence that your daughter's father falls into one or more of these 10 categories.
Here are a few of the 10 reasons that might fit in your circumstances: 1) parent has abused or neglected the juvenile; 2) one parent has been awarded physical custody (by a court) and the other has willfully failed without justification to pay child support; 3) the parent is incapable of providing proper care and supervision because of substance abuse or mental illness, and there is reasonable probability that this incapacity will continue for the foreseeable future; 4) the same parent has had parental rights terminated for a different juvenile, and he still will not establish a safe home environment.
If you are able to convince the court that your daughter's father falls into one of the 10 categories above, the court may conclude that it has the legal power to terminate his parental rights. But first you must convince the court of a second fact: 2) that terminating the parental rights of your daughter's father is in her best interests. There are no hard and fast rules for determining "best interests." As you describe your situation, the court will likely consider whether your daughter's life will be more consistent, safe, happy and/or successful if her father's rights are terminated. The laws of NC encourage the court not to terminate parental rights unless the child will clearly be better off without the parent. Your local lawyer will be able to talk to you about how the court in your county looks at circumstances like yours.
The other issue in your question relates to whether your daughter's father is stalking and/or intimidating you and your daughter. In NC, a protective order is available to a child or mother when the father puts her in fear of physical injury or continually harasses her. You may have heard this court order referred to as a restraining order or a 50B order (named after the NC statute that describes the process for obtaining the order). If you are concerned for your safety, please seek out a local attorney or agency that helps victims of domestic violence.
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