Sure you can always fire your attorney. But you should realize in a law firms situation, especially in "high volume" consumer law practices like family law where the same issues crop up with many clients day after day, unless your case presents unusual wrinkles (you and your spouse have millions of dollars in community property), it's common for senior attorneys to delegate the "scutwork" of the paperwork and pretrial motion drafting and research to younger associates who they supervise. The benefit to the client is they bill at lower hourly rates but have access to more experienced attorneys to "vet" unusual legal or strategic issues they encounter.
But if your only comfortable telling your tales of woe to a same sex attorney, you should shop around and find one who will take you on, but I think the idea that only women attorneys can effectively represent women in a divorce and vice versa, perhaps once true, is kind of silly nowadays when an equal number of women and men graduate from law schools and there is ample choice and competition among family law practitioners.
I also think divorce clients put way too much emphasis on whether the attorney is male or female. Perhaps that makes more difference if you're visiting a gynecologist or ob-gyn physician whose probing your private parts, but it shouldn't make a difference in divorce cases. There are many fine family law attorneys of both sexes. We hear the similar sad stories day after day from both women and men whose marriages have run off the rails and try to help them.
A related idea is personal demeanor, since most divorce cases are negotiated to a narrow results based on the circumstances of the parties (their community property, incomes and earning capacities, length of marriage, etc.) the idea that your attorney needs to be a "shark", a very common misconception, may not be so helpful when most issues are negotiated rather than end up being tried.
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Of course, you can always terminate representation. . But, you should read your agreement again before you do. It might be better, and cheaper, to attempt to work out your differences.
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