No. If you have an attorney representing you, then it's pretty much an all or nothing kind of deal. You can't do part of the case, i.e. correspondence, and have an attorney do the other parts. Moreover, you could be impeding your attorney's efforts. You could be helping your attorney behind the scenes, but you can't be both pro se and have an attorney.
Moreover, no attorney will take your case without having the authority to work the case the way he/she sees fit. If an attorney does not have the autonomy to practice law the way he/she feels is appropriate, it could also pose a risk of malpractice or create other issues that could harm your case or your attorney's representation of you.
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California allows (and even encourages in situations like yours) a "limited scope representation" in family law cases. This allows the attorney to handle only specific aspects of your case without assuming responsibility for the entire case. Any family law attorney that you consult should be familiar with the concept and with the forms that need to be filed.
My Maryland colleagues response - which is dead wrong - demonstrates the danger on AVVO of relying on responses by attorneys who are not licensed to practice in the state where the question is posed.
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On this basis, your best approach would be to spend a couple of hours with an attorney before the court hearing and let him/her prepare you and organize you in terms of what evidence you have and the presentation of that evidence. Otherwise, you have no hope for things going well. Obviously, your ex has a statistical advantage having a full-time attorney available for every facet of litigation. It is not like you hire me for 2 hours and you are going to prepare everything yourself, cut yourself open and have me rush in to do the heart surgery. A very experienced attorney is going to have many tools, including time you spend on tactics that you will not have in your tool bag.
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