I have full and complete custody aka sole custody of some minor relatives of mines. I've had kids for 8 years permanent for 5 my husband came into the picture a few months after first getting them so he wasn't included in the proceedings. Mom is a piece of work and still hasn't gotten herself together and neither father has any legal rights or custody to the kids. One of the oldest 2 dad does pay cs though but otherwise absent. The other father is dodging any responsibility to child. We also have their younger sibling which was removed by cps but cps said they didn't have ti terminate parents rights do to us receiving child under a safety plan. Child's father outside of 1 month of support in 4 years is absent and has otherwise abandoned child. Mom has signed a waiver for her rights but dad want so they were saying it would cost 4x more to adopt to have his rights terminated. Question is how do I get my husband joint custody with me or guardianship as the last thing I want is for my kids to be separated or taken from him if something was to happen to me and which one is best although to do want to actually adopt kids.
You could petition the court that gave you custody to modify those orders so as to add your husband as a joint custodian. You'd have to reopen those cases. Be advised however, that whenever you reopen a case the mother and/or father's may try to jump back in.
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Thank you for what you are doing for those children, They are blessed to have you and your husband. You could petition the same court in which you were granted custody but I would suggest that you & he seek adoption. Due to the different laws it could be best/easiest for you to adopt and then he could adopt as the step-father later. Go to a probate/adoption attorney and discuss the situation completely.
I recommend adoption because then it is final. If any parent gets it together for a couple of months (or gets married to someone who has it together) that parent could petition for return of custody even if you have had the child for 5 years. That is not good for the child, at least in my opinion.
Best wishes to you and again, thanks.
I changed or added adoption to your subject list. I think that will help.
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