NO, the victim can't get in trouble; the victim's not violating the restraining order. It sounds like YOU are. Seems like a bad idea unless you like jail.
Last thing you want/need is a criminal case to come out of what appears (at this point) to only be a civil/DV restraining order. I'd also stop admitting you are violating a court order on such a public forum as avvo. Better to be safe than sorry.