Can the lawyer I have met with for an initial complimentary consultation represent my ex spouse I live in NJ
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It sounds like a conflict of interest. You should bring it to the Court's attention. You should also contact the attorney and put it in writing that you consulted with that attorney.
If you previously consulted with an attorney on the same issue who is now representing your husband, then that would be a conflict of interest, and that attorney could be disqualified if you bring that to the Court's attention. The remainder of your question becomes an issue for the court to decide. If you are sure that your 14 year old child does not wish to have a 50/50 shared parenting time schedule, then you should ask the court to interview him "in camera", and the court will usually take the child's preferences into consideration at that age.
However, it all depends on the entirety of the facts and circumstances surrounding this matter and this issue. I would strongly urge you to seek a consultation with an experienced family law attorney who can gather all of the facts regarding the CURRENT circumstances surrounding this matter and then provide you with the appropriate advice. From the little info that you provided, it appears that your EX may have a change in circumstances warranting a review, but there are MANY more facts that need to be examined both by an attorney representing you, and by the court.
I wish you luck in resolving this issue. I know it must be stressful, especially with a 14 year old.