Can the father of my 1 year old get her hair cut?
2 attorney answers
Unless you have some court order that says that father is not to cut the child's hair, father can take her to get her hair cut. You and he have a long way to go in parenting this child, and it generally does not pay to get into squabbles such as these. I suggest that you and he meet with a counselor or mediator to discuss these issues so you and he can have an understanding going forward about these types of things and so you can avoid future conflict. I can assure you that over the next 17 years you and he will have disagreements over any number of child related issues that are far more significant than hair style and you need to address these conflicts in a constructive way now and not wait until ones having a more permanent impact arise.
Normally, I would answer a question like this with 'probably' or 'most likely'. It is rare that I slap down a hard, definitive yes or no but in this case, the answer is a resounding - YES! (even added the little exclamation point for added effect). Even if he wasn't allowed to - seriously? What's the big deal? The child is one, the hair will grow back. Even if there was a religions or some other quasi-legitimate reason, this is a very petty thing to be attempting to control. In fact, I would venture to speculate this is your own fault. Men are often simple creatures and it is very likely he only did it because what you characterize as 'asked' he characterizes as being 'told'. People don't like to be told what they can and can't do - especially by an 'ex'. So it's possible this was an open act of defiance and / or a non-verbal way of slapping you in the face with a constant but temporary reminder that he won't allow you to dictate how things will be during his visitation. If so - good for him. If the child is one and you two are bickering over things like this - its gonna be a long 17 years and the child is likely to be the one to suffer for it - usually in the mental / emotional development area. There are a lot of things involving the child like this (your imagination is the limit) that you and the father can legally do to frost each others butts. However, its not a good idea to use the child as a 'battle field' for an on going passive aggressive pissing match. Just hand over the child and let dad do his thing - if the child comes back with a confederate battle flag tattooed on her forehead - then maybe you have a legitimate complaint. Best of luck!
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