I've been married for 2 years already, I married her because she became pregnant during our 2 month relationship and because she wanted papers. We have NEVER lived together after getting married. We have actually never had a relationship after she became pregnant, she does not want me to be with any other woman. I asked for the divorce and she refuses to agree because I am currently seeing someone else. She has threaten me to ask for alimony, to ask for me to pay her divorce lawyer and as much child support as she can get out of me. She is also threatening me to ask a judge to not allow my current partner around my daughters. Is this even possible if we are in a serious relationship and my girlfriend has done nothing bad to my daughters.
It sounds like it is time for divorce, she is threatening it, you have moved on to another woman and it doesn't sound like much of a marriage from the get go. Alimony in a 2 year marriage is unlikely, your relative incomes may be important to the determination, but everything remains possible. That you two never lived together and otherwise didn't act like a married couple makes an award of alimony less likely as well. Regarding attorney's fees, maybe, depending on your relative incomes, and how the parties behave during the divorce. Child support will be ordered and it is based on a statutory calculation based on your income, her income and several other factors, she cannot change the way the calculation works. You are apparently openly engaged in an adulterous relationship, which doesn't help things, but has no bearing on child support. It is not uncommon for a court to order that neither parent have their boyfriend or girlfriend at their home, overnight, when the children are present. The "seriousness" of your relationship with her doesn't matter - you are either married to her (no restraint) or nor married to her (possibly restrained). You should call a few family law/divorce attorneys and discuss the case and hire one you are comfortable with.
She can request anything she wants. Getting alimony after a two year marriage would be difficult. Child support, however, will happen. Consult a local attorney and discuss your situation...don't wait for her to take the initiative.
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First of all, you need a lawyer. In a divorce the court will deal with child support, custody and visitation. The support amount is usually set pursuant to state law, not the dreams of the parties. Alimony is uncommon but not impossible in short marriages and whether you get hit for her attorneys fees depends on details we do not have. Judges often wil prohibit unmarried lovers from being around the children, and if you want to be dating, you've jumped the gun. The divorce really should have come first. Get a lawyer and get started.
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Alimony will be based on her need for support from you and your ability to pay. Attorney's fees is a form of temporary alimony. You really need to hire an attorney to make sure your financial and parental interest are protected.
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