The Guru's right.
Here's what doesn't sit right with me, you mention you have to pay her attorney fees. Generally (Presuming it's not a 511 or rule 137 action) that only happens when one side (you) has money, and the other side doesn't (her).
I don't know if you have an attorney, I'm presuming you do because 508 orders (making you pay for her attorney) generally require you to have LOTS of $$$. If that's the case, talk to your attorney about your concerns.
If you don't have an attorney, get one yesterday. Otherwise you'll be on AVVO a few months from now wondering why you're living in a van, down by the river - while your ex sleeps in a giant comfy bed, surrounded by piles of your money.
Man-up and get a lawyer.
It sounds like you abandoned the home and all the possessions to your spouse.
She owned the things she sold, just as much as you did. Since you took off and did not seek court intervention by a divorce filing are motion practice to stay her actions, it now is her word against yours about abandonment.
This is a perfect example as to why an attorney should be consulted from day one on these things. Now, no remedy is likely possible for you. You abandoned your home and waived your rights.
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