You mention having to go before a judge who heard the case. However, you do not say whether a court order was entered or a written settlement agreement reached that spells out what the custodial and/or visitation rights are of the parties. If there is a court order that itself or through incorporation of a written agreement requires that you be given a reasonable opportunity to have telephonic visitation with your children, and your children's father is in violation of the order, you could try filing a contempt action against him. Depending on how long ago you went before the judge, and esp. if a final order was entered at least 2 yrs ago, you may want to consider filing a modification action. I advise speaking with a family law attorney about this. Good luck.
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