Does the ex stomp her foot and screek to try and get what she wants? Think of her as a 4 year old having a temper tantrum to try to get what she wants!
Your husband isn't able to remove his ex-wife's name from the mortgage now that the property is in foreclosure. Any papers he signs saying he will remove her name from the mortgage would probably be a joke!
Now that you see the problems not having a lawyer can cause, hope you are going to hire the best bankruptcy lawyer you can find. Hope this perspective helps!
There is no way to remove the ex's name form the mortgage without the bank's permission and don't count on that happening. A refinance is obviously impossible. I have to assume that the ex wants her name off the title which is all that can be done and will make no difference with regard to the mortgages. If she wants the property off her name she can file a quit claim deed giving up her interest in the property to your husband. That would not require your husband's signature. If foreclosure occurs she will likely be liable for the debt related to the second mortgage if her name is on the loan. She might have to file bk so she won't have to pay that.... maybe she knows this and is nervous about it. Since your husband discharged his personal liability on the second mortgage, the ex was left holding the bag for that debt if your husband loses the house in foreclosure.
If the first forecloses through trustee sale, that is the end of that debt. You husband's BK took care of his obligation on the second. He no longer will owe either lender.
As for the ex, she can either settle with the second lienor or she can file BK. It is her headache - tell her to stop calling your husband.
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