While your current finanical information is very relevant to her spousal support claims and probably wouldn't be subject to your privacy claims, it does seem like she's going to kill the golden-egg- laying goose with hyper-aggressive tactics like these. You may be entitled to seek a protective order to limit her discovery rights so that she doesn't hurt your job seeking efforts.
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