My ex-wife regularly calls or texts wanting to know where her money is. I pay her extra every week, and she is the one who set it up through CSR. But when I tell her she has to call them, she gets all mad and trys to punish me using the kids.
If there is a child support order in place, you may want to consider asking the Court for an income deduction order. This order requires your employer to withhold the child support and forward to the mother. If you are not employed, and Child Support Services is involved, you will pay through them. In general, either of these options should get her the child support consistently.
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If she is your ex-wife, then a Final Judgment and Decree should have been entered, which may have incorporated a negotiated settlement agreement. Pull the Decree and any incorporated Agreement. If your ex is not in compliance with the Order, if she is keeping the children from you, trying to alienate their affections from you (if that is what you mean by "punish" you "using the kids," then you should consult with an attorney (bring a copy of the Decree and any incorporated Settlement Agreement) about filing a Petition for Citation for Contempt and/or a Modification of Custody action.
In order to prevail on a Modification of Custody action, you would need to demonstrate that there has been a material and substantial change in circumstances affecting the health or welfare of the children and that it is in their best interest that a modification of custody be granted. Talk to a lawyer about all the facts - how the mother is "punishing" you "using the children," how the mother's behavior has been impacting the children, how the children have been doing in school since the Decree was entered, if their behavior in school has changed since the Decree was entered, if their grades have declined - improved, been consistent, erratic, etc - whether the children are having any psychological issues, whether their medical or psychological needs are being timely and appropriately met, whether they are getting to school promptly, have too many unexecused absences, have begun or stopped participating in extracurricular activities, etc. Also...
Make sure to show any correspondence from CSR to the attorney, along with proof that you have been paying timely. The mother should not be harassing you about child support that is current. A letter from a lawyer may help nip that behavior in the bud. Note that while assisting with your children's financial needs over and above Court Order is an honorable thing for you to do as a parent, you should not expect that voluntary payments made outside CSR will be credited toward your child support obligation. Best to you.
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You might want to check your divorce judgment or settlement agreement to see if there is any language within it prohibiting either party from "harassing, annoying" the other party. If there is, then your ex-wife could be subject to contempt if she continues to harass you about the child support. As long as you are current on your payments, no court will support her actions.
You might consider hiring an attorney to write her a letter threatening her with a contempt if she continues to harass you. That probably would not cost you very much, and it might have the desired effect of getting her to leave you alone.
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