It is rare that child custody decisions would be altered because of your deployment. But you make no posting as to how and with whom the children will live while you are deployed. This may be the basis for the ex's attorney saying what he did. You need to confer with a JAG lawyer and a NJ family lawyer about what you can do to maintain the original custody arrangements. From past experience, it appears that your ex's principal motivation is getting child support from you.
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