We are recently divorced and my ex-husband recently moved 3000 miles away; we have joint legal custody. His family is allowed very limited visitation while he is gone (i.e., school lunches, watch sporting events), but nothing much beyond that.
I recently found out that his mother (my ex mother-in-law who does not have any legal rights) has started going to our child's school for private conferences, discussing our child's educational reports and decisions with teachers and staff, and even taking our child to the doctor for medical consults (i.e., orthodontists). All of this has occurred without my knowledge. My ex never told me; I found out through the school and doctors after the fact.
I guess my question is - can my ex MIL schedule/attend conferences, receive personal/private medical and educational information, schedule/take our child to appointments, etc. . .
If so, I understand I'll have to deal with it (it is definitely not my first choice), but since this is all new I'd like to have a better understanding of what exactly the boundaries are and what rights I have in protecting the release of our child's information to non-legal guardians.
For the release of information, your ex likely could share everything with them anyway so that's a moot point. As for meetings at the school and doctors' appointments, unless you and your ex agree it does seem a bit beyond. Talk to him about it and see if you can resolve it otherwise unfortunately court may be an issue. Let the school know that you don't permit the kids to go with her or for her to be in meetings, and certainly not without you.
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