The short answer is: Yes, she can withhold visitation for a violation of the morality clause, if one is contained in your settlement documents.
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If your decree contains a provision like you described, she can withhold visitation until you comply with the provision. Just because you and she have "worked it out" for your benefit in the past does not mean that you have a right to ignore the Order of the court contained in the Final Judgment and Decree of Divorce. If you believe that the provision should no longer be applied, you have the right to bring an action seeking to modify the parenting access, custody and or visitation provisions of the divorce decree.
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If I am reading your question right, you have asked "Can I thumb my nose in contempt of a judge's order and get away with it?" and the answer is "no." The language of your court order controls.
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