I'm going to edit the practice area of your post to "Child Support" so that it can be viewed by attorneys who practice in that area.
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Yes, his money can be used to support his child. He would be best served if he hires a family lawyer to help him set a court order and take the child support out of the equation of the games played by the child's mother. Best of luck.
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This is not a personal injury question and best answered by a family law lawyer. I do not practice family law and certainly no in California. However in Pennsylvania the failure to pay child supports has its ramifications but denial of visitation is not one of them. Visitation cannot be withheld simply because child support is not paid. Is there a visitation court order. If not, your son needs one--in that way everyone will know the rules--and what can or cannot be done. He needs a family law lawyer.
Again, in Pennsylvania I doubt your son would get away from paying support by arguing the wrongful death money is just his.
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