While the agreement may have little legal effect, it does spell out an agreement that the two of you are comfortable with. Hopefully, if the two of you stick to the terms of the agreement, both sides will remain happy and there will be no need for court intervention. Imagine, parents making joint decisions for their child, without the need for court.
You could but it has no real legal effect. The notarization only shows that the person who signed the document is the person. If there is a disagreement between the two of you, he can always go to court and file for custody legally and then your agreement is not worth the paper it is written on. You may think everything will work with the two of you but you see his family already starting to poison the water. Do you think that you will be okay for the next 6 months? He can always change his mind during that time and file for custody and NY would have jurisdiction to compel you to return the child over and to litigate there.
You can take your risk by moving but just be prepared. That paper is not going to help you.
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The agreement is fine until someone doesn't like it and goes to court.
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There are some issues not addressed this far... Primarily what is your status currently with the father! Are you married" were you ever married? If not then technically legally neither one of you have custody of the child and to a great degree that could be beneficial in you leaving as you could not be charged with kidnapping given he doesn't have legal custody of the child... If however you were married or still are married (legally) then you'd both have custody and if you were to leave he could criminally charge you for kidnapping.
If you leave the jurisdiction he can still file a havens corpus petition (writ) to force you back into the jurisdiction.
an out of court agreement has no legal force behind it... And if violated then as a result is utterly meaningless.
My suggestion would be to be more upfront and figure out a solution all parties can live with... As otherwise you'd likely find yourself in Court.
However, I'd you chose to ignore my advice keep my firms phone number handy as you might be needing to hire us!
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