Too many questions to be answered on this forum. I would set up an appointment for a free consultation with an attorney who specializes in HOAs and real property
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Mr. Leroi is right -- you really do need to set up some time with an attorney that works in this area to get the education you need for these issues.
In no way am I offering you legal advice, and in no way has my comment created an attorney-client relationship. You are not to rely upon my note above in any way, but insted need to sit down with counsel and share all relevant facts before receiving fully-informed legal advice. If you want to be completely sure of your rights, you must sit down with an experienced criminal defense attorney to be fully aware of your rights.
A Condo or HOA is usually run by a Board of Directors, and a management company hired by the board usually acts on instructions from the board. The board approves the budget, not the management company. The board is also supposed to make the determination as to what actions are violations of the covenants, and whether a cease and desist is worth pursuing. Do you know who your board members are? Do you go to meetings? Sounds like you may want to get involved and be heard.
This is not intended to be legal advice or create an attorney-client relationship. If more information is needed, you should consult with an attorney in your state regarding the specifics of your situation and the options available to you.