Supplemental Security Income (SSI) is a means-tested welfare program. Financial eligibility for SSI is limited to the elderly and disabled who have low income and little in assets. When you were awarded SSI, the Social Security Administration provided a pamphlet of information about how these determinations are made. You should pay attention to the information in it. It should be no surprise to you that you are required to periodically show that your financial situation continues to qualify. Under certain circumstances the income of other adults in your household is "deemed" to be available for your support. You cannot circumvent this rule by maintaining a non-marital relationship. This is not a "stupid SSI thing;" it is a correct application of the rules of eligibility.
By the way, you have not been awarded SSI "for the rest of your life." While your disability may be permanent, your financial eligibility is not.
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I would only add that if you are being provided room and board by another person (such as your girlfriend) then your SSI (welfare disability check) is subject to reduction. You may want to consult a legal aid lawyer in your area for further advice. Your SSI check in not permanent. It can be taken from you if you do not financially qualify or if you improve and are no longer qualified for a disability check.
This response is meant to be information only and should not be considered to be legal advice. This information is not meant and should not be construed to be the formation of an attorney client relationship. I practice Virginia Workers compensation law and Social Security Disability law.
In addition to the sound suggestions from my esteemed colleagues, I offer the following: If they decide to reduce your benefits due to deeming of your girlfriend's income / resources then you need to appeal that notice within the deadline provided. You also need to be sure and ask for continuing benefits at the prior level while you are appealing the reduction. To give yourself the best shot to avoid deeming, you need to be sure not to represent yourself as married to friends, family, government agencies, vendors, your landlord; do not share a last name, get a separate bank account, etc.
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