My current boyfriend is constantly insulting, verbally abusing me, and accusing me of terrible things but still asks for sex then threatens me if i dont do it with him. He never wants to break up with me and always promises to change. When I take him back he just gets drunk and start the same problems all over again. I dont fight him or argue because we have kids together, When he leaves he always comes back begging and i let him back in for the kids sake. Im at my last draw and i dont know what to do. i would really love for a judge to let him know its illegal to treat people this way
"Current boyfriend" If you don't like the way he treats you then your remedy is to break up with him. You can't allow him to treat you that way and then sue him. If he need a restraining order to keep him a way from you, you can do that.
Your statements are vague.. the Court need fact to determine verbal abuse, and what you consider to be a threat. It is only illegal to treat someone that way if they don't allow it.
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You can sue someone for just about anything. The question is: can you win? Your issue is more complicated than you realize because of your children. If your children are witnessing abuse, you can find yourself in trouble for allowing that. Sounds crazy; I know. But I have seen it happen, albeit in Iowa.
My suggestion is to get a custody order so that you have legal control over the children, ask for supervised visitation until he gets help for his alcohol and anger issues; and get some therapy for yourself.
You are missing the bigger picture here. You have a choice as to whether or not you are with this person. You are voluntarily subjecting yourself (and your child) to your boyfriend's awful, abusive behavior. You can leave (and should leave) anytime. Obviously, you know by now he is not going to change. People who are abusive DO NOT CHANGE. The fact that he is promising he will change is just one more sign of his abusive, which includes the manipulation and promises of change. Everything you describe is the typical cycle of abuse and you are stuck in it and nothing will change until YOU change it by leaving him.
You CANNOT sue him for emotional distress, slander, etc. Nothing you describe would be appropriate for a civil lawsuit. What you CAN do is LEAVE HIM, and potentially file for a restraining order against him to protect you and your child from him and his abuse. In addition, you need to protect your children from this person. If the children are present in the home when he is verbally abusing you, you can be held liable for failing to protect the children from being exposed to this. This is very serious and you need to leave this person immediately so your children are not further damaged by his behavior.
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