Soon to ex-wife is still your wife and absent a pattern of conduct and a finding by the judge that the action was brought in bad faith, you can't sue for the emotional distress you expereinced. Hopefully your divorce is tried before the same judge that told her she was wasting her time - her actions to deny you contact with the children under the 209A abuse prevention order coupled with an authorizex departure from the state with the children for three months leave you with excellent standing to ask for custody of the children - given her intent to deprive them of a relationship with you.
Given your profession, you know how to follow court orders - which I bet she has not been following. Maybe you should change your focus.
My colleague provided excellent advice. I strongly urge you to speak with a local family law attorney who can help develop your case for divorce. I wish you all the best.
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