NYS no longer permits heartbalm suits. Assuming you have a divorce with child visitation orders you can motion the court to limit the children's visits to only with their father. If you have an order and it permits father visitation, you can lose custody of the children and be forced to pay child support to ex if you bar parental visitation. If you have yet to file for divorce I suggest you talk over your options with an experienced family lawyer. My partner Jim DeFelice does family law in NYC and his contact information is provided in his avvo profile and also on our firm's website. www.sarnoanddefelice.com.
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