Well as long as you have no papers, then she will do what she wants. Of course if you want to act as a father, and not as a doormat try this; hire a family lawyer and 1) sue her for divorce for adultery, 2) motion the family court that you have custody, and she pays you child support, and 3) ask for an order that the children stay in PA. You will not get all of this, but the harder you try they more you will get. Also IF you have a court order, you can charge her with kidnapping if she leaves the state. If you don't have one, you can kiss your kids goodbye.
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