This largely depends on whether there is any judgment of child custody in place or not. If there is a judgment, it probably requires you to get the permission of the other parent or the court before moving out of the state, or 60 miles further distant from them. If there is no judgment, however, then nothing prohibits you from moving. You should be aware that the father will always have the right to sue you (in whatever state you happen to live in) to seek some custody or parenting time rights with your child. However, the longer he stays away, the less likely he is to succeed at that. You can read more about these laws here: http://www.northwestlawoffice.com/custody.html
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If there is no court order in place regarding father's parenting time or requiring you to notify him before you move (which appears to be the case) then you are not violating any court orders by doing so. Be aware, however, that currently Oregon is the "home state" of the minor child and once father finds out you have moved it is possible that he could file an Oregon case to legally establish his parenting rights, which could mean that you end up having to hire an Oregon attorney and come back to Oregon to address the issues. If the minor child lives in N. Carolina for 6 months before any courts become involved, then N. Carolina becomes the child's "home state" and any court proceedings regarding custody and parenting time would have to occur in N. Carolina. Good Luck.
This is a very important question concerning your life, your son's life, the father's rights, and has many legal ramifications that need to be properly discussed with a lawyer. Asking for a legal opinion here on Avvo on which to base a critical legal decision is relying on fortunes in a fortune cookies or a magic 8 ball to plan your life. See a lawyer and get proper legal advice.
As for the child support - you have always had free enforcement assistance through the State of Oregon - either the district attorney or the department of justice depending on which program you qualify for. Your discussion with an attorney should include the pro's and con's of seeking child support. If you do move, consider this, your son may end up taking plan trips alone to Oregon to visit his dad a few times a year. So nothing is perfect. http://www.portlandlegalservices.com
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