You should oetition the court in advance for permission to move. Either the two sides will come to an agreement or the court will determine what it believes to be in the best interest of the child. Good luck.
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In order to move with the child, you need either the consent of the other parent or a court order allowing it. These are difficult cases. You would be mistaken to attempt to go forward without legal advice. There are many factors which the court must consider, and you probably won't even know what they are without a lawyer's help.
If you can't afford an attorney, you should file a petition to modify your prior order in the Family Court. Then you should immediately ask for a court appointed lawyer. Your petition will probably need to be amended to include everything you will need to allege in order to have a chance at prevailing.
You want to take care of this now. I don't recommend marrying someone moving to Hawaii unless you are willing to a) live apart from him, or b) Live in Hawaii with your husband while your daughter continues to live in New York.
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