First, you really need to get in touch with a local attorney. I am answering this in an attempt to give you some guidance.
The contempt hearing is precisely because you did not comply with the court order that you were to refinance the house. I am sure she is quite upset because, since she is on the mortgage as well, your are likely damaging her credit. Because of this she may not be able to refinance it.
Thus, she may, in fact, may try to force the sale of the house, or simply retake possession of it.
Again, I would seek the advice of a local attorney, as many will at least give you a free consultation.
Nothing in the answer provided should be considered legal advice because all cases and facts are different and require a thorough examination of the facts by an attorney before any decisions are made.
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