No, both the United States and the state of Oregon follow the Constitutional principles of 'Freedom of Speech' and "Freedom of Association'. People are not property, you do not get to control their actions - only your response to their actions.
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You can't stop another human being from exercising their right to free speech, at least not in the US. But you can get divorced if you don't like the behavior of your wife and it is that much of a problem for you. I think before you do something that extreme you and your wife need to discuss this with a professional family counselor.
My guess is that your wife has not yet grasped why you feel uncomfortable and sees her continuation of a relationship with a past ex as harmless. So she needs to show more consideration for your feelings. Also you may need to confront why this makes you feel insecure. There are very good reason why you feel the way you do - we are basically evolved from animals and mother nature built into the male of just about every species on earth some very strong instincts to keep their mates away from other males. As evolved humans beings we can chose to override our innate animal instincts and make other behavioral choices but it helps to understand that some of our feelings are instinctive and due to millions of years of evolution.
Your wife needs to understand you better and take take steps to make sure you don't feel uncomfortable and you need to take steps to feel more confident and give her the freedom to maintain other relationships. In short, a compromise with rules you can both live more comfortably with.
It may also be that her ties with her ex have not completely changed. Sometimes women that are insecure want to keep other possibilities around. She may not even realize she is doing this on a subconscious level. So to the extent that this friendship is undermining her commitment to your relationship with her, a counselor may help you identify this and decide whether or not you both want to work more on your relationship or if maybe your relationship really isn't going to work because she is not 100% committed to it. Not what you want to hear I am sure, but better to find out now then later.
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Not in this country.
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