My ex and I struggled with drug addiction after getting into a car accident. After struggling with addiction for 2 years I checked myself into rehab. My ex fiance however did not want to stop and says he is clean but ran off to another state with another women he used with. We have a 4 year old daughter together and I also found out while in treatment that we are expecting our second child shortly. If he really is clean I dont want to keep our children from him, since he is still their father. But I dont trust this other women since I know she is an addict. Can I legally keep his new girlfriend away from my 4 year old? I believe she is a bad example for her, not that I was always the best but im changing for the better. I have never been arrested and have no record.
Is there a parenting plan in place? Thats going to be the first order of business is to establish a parenting plan. You also need to look into this other person and find out if there is a criminal history or anything specific that you can point to in order to prove that she isn't a fit person to be around your children.
You can seek temporary orders limiting who can interact with the children but you need evidence to support your allegations.
And this leads to my final point, you need an attorney. An experienced attorney can help draft a parenting plan that will make sure that either the parents play by the rules or that there is an effective way of dealing with it.
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I agree with my colleague, at this point in time, you need to hire an experienced attorney who can help you put a parenting plan in place if you do not have one already. A parenting plan and temporary orders can be crafted to allow for father to have visitation if he is not using, requesting drug and alcohol testing if drugs are a concern, limiting interaction with his girlfriend if she is using or is a harm to childre, etc. To do that though, you will need the help of an attorney. Good luck!
I agree with the above answers. The first step is getting a parenting plan in place and if you already have one then reviewing what the dispute resolution process is. Usually it is mediation. Have you talked to your ex about your concerns? Maybe the two of you can reach an agreement on providing proof of self help groups (AA or NA) or treatment reports.
I agree with my colleagues, but want to emphasize that in Washington all adults living in a home when the children will exercise residential time with a parent are subject to the scrutiny of the Court. In Pierce County, the identifying information re other adults is requested whenever a parenting plan/children are at issue. The Court runs a JIS which is a background criminal history. If this is not done in your county, then do your best through a detective or otherwise. Congratulations for choosing a healthy lifestyle. I agree with my colleagues--the issues here are too important to go it alone without legal representation.
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