The Surrogate's Court Procedure Act allows for a fiduciary to petition the court for permission to resign (Section 715). Since you have an estates attorney on retainer, you could ask her or him if you might make this application to the court.
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Speak to the attorney. There are ways out. You may have to make a motion to be relieved.
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You should be able to resign and the next person in succession take over.
This would have to be approved by the court.
The answer given does not imply that an attorney-client relationship has been established and your best course of action is to have legal representation in this matter.