Attorney fees are based on your "need" her "ability" to pay, or sanctionable conduct.
Does not sound like her behavior is sanctionable (so bad that she should have to pay your fees).
You must ask for fees now, file an Income and Expense Declaration, and have your attorney file a Declaration re fees.
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