The father of my child and I currently live together but he is in the process of moving out (he should be out within 1-2 months). We currently have separate rooms & break up household expenses 50:50 except that he doesn't consider our daughter's healthcare premiums & DR costs household expenses (which I pay for and comes out to about $300 a month). He works nights Wed-Sunday and I work days M-Th & Sat.
On the days where I have to work and he worked the night before he is falling asleep while watching our daughter, who is only 18 months old. At this time he is refusing to help me pay for child care saying he can't afford it (he makes one and half times what I make) and that he doesn't trust anyone else to watch our child. I can not afford child care without his help. I looked into low income child care but I make too much money.
Unfortunately on top of sleeping while caring for the baby, he also refuses to give her a bath, brush her hair, brush her teeth, and take care of her basic hygiene needs. The baby's father also has issues w/ depression and smokes pot (he got a misdemeanor for it about 3 yrs back). I've been keeping a journal of the issues as they come up and I am worried about my daughter's safety with him sleeping all the time. I know he loves his daughter dearly and I don't believe he's being malicious but I'm worried. I also think his quality of life will improve if he can get proper sleep instead of attempting to stay awake while watching our daughter. Is it possible to get child support and custody before he moves out or do I have to wait until he moves out to take care of it?
He is also stating that when he moves out he would like to see the baby everyday and have her with him overnight on his days off but I don't think he is capable of taking care of her needs. I would like to offer him daily visitation rights but I don't want him to have any custody but I know he will never agree to this. What can I do?
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