Consummation is irrelevant to annulment, contrary to popular belief. You could normally get an annulment on the grounds of fraud, given that he's gay, but I agree with the other attorney. Eleven years is too long a marriage for a judge to grant an annulment. You'll need to get a divorce.
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I am sorry that you are going through this, most likely 11 years is too long, and you would need a stronger argument than consumation as that is not a proper ground, however fraud it. I woudl just file a divorce, take care unless there is an immigration component then please investigate further.
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You have been married too long under these circumstances to qualify for an annullment. Just get a divorce. Contact my office for free consultation. 727-446-7659.
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