To qualify for a Domestic Violence Restraining Order in California, you must have one of the following relationships to the person you want restrained:
- Spouse or former spouse
- Person with whom you share or shared a living space
- Have or had a dating/engagement relationship
- Parents of a child
- Relative to the second degree (grandparents, but not cousins)
To qualify for a Domestic Violence Restraining Order the person you wish to have restrained must have committed at least one of the following acts:
- Recent physical violence (usually within the past 6 months)
- Recent threats of physical violence (past 3-6 months)
- Harassment (excessive phone calls, threatening or upsetting notes etc.)
- Recent sexual assault or molestation
- Verbal abuse (only where very severe)
Given your scenario, you could apply for a restraining order through your local family court. Go and visit the family law facilitator at the courthouse, and they will help you with the paperwork and procedure.
The courthouse in Stanislaus county has a pro per (free) clinic located on the second floor. Assistance is on a first come first served but they should be able to direct you in the right direction as to the documents necessary if you determine you need a restraining order. If you feel that matter is more complicated it may be worth the cost of consulting with any attorney.