You can go to the court where it was filed and withdraw the complaint. Be advised that the court may want you to attend a hearing on the matter, and if the police witnessed the aftermath of actual domestic violence, the officers may insist on proceeding. It would be helpful if you and your bf used counselling to resolve your disputes and not the police.
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You cannot drop the TRO before the hearing. At the hearing, you can make application to the Court to have the TRO "dissolved." If this is a one-time incident which resulted in no serious injuries, chances are pretty good that the Court will grant your application. However, if you have a history of doing this, the Court may be more reluctant to honor your request, especially if you were injured and the police express an independent desire to proceed.
Be careful for the reasons why and you will need to go to court in order for a judge to accept the dismissal.
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