I live in a border town and share custody with my ex but I have to cross the border for dentist appointments and some errands and he tells me that I have to ask him permission or I can’t take him. I tell him that if he doesn’t want me to take my son across the border that he should baby sit but he doesn’t want to do that either. What can I do? It’s illegal to cross him without his permission because it’s kidnapping right? I’m getting annoyed of not being able to take my son with me without asking him.
You are not kidnapping or abducting your child by doing day-to-day things. You have no custody order (or if you have one, it needs to be updated) because it would say who can do what if there is a dispute, and you should get one. File a UPA case and ask for custody orders. Use the local court self-help center - this is the most basic stuff, and they will walk you through it. Make it clear to your ex that you are not trying to take his child away from him, you just want to get clear rules about who does what, so there is no fighting around the child. It's hard to argue with that logic, even if he doesn't like it that you're sorta suing him. Also, you don't have to ask the court for child support, or you could come to an agreement as part of the UPA, or you could just ask your local child support agency to start a case.
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