Yes, you can postpone your trial. You need to immediately file a Motion to Abate Proceedings Pending Marital Counseling. It's not a standard form. Most judges will give you ninety days to go through counseling to try and save the marriage.
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It's not just him that has to change in order to make your marriage work, it is both of you. Marriage counselling only works if you have a good counselor and both of you work hard at bringing about the necessary changes in your relationship.
I have all too often heard one spouse say that they have tried everything to save the marriage, but in reality they are expecting the other to be a perfect spouse. The secret to maintaining a long-term relationship is not in finding the right person to be married to but in "being" the right person to be married to.
Most Courts will happily postpone or "continue" the hearing when both sides agree. Should you decide to pursue reconciliation, please use a well respected marital counselor. If reconciliation does not come to pass, hopefully the counselor will assist you towards a peaceful separation.
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